Hi my loves,
I can’t believe it’ll be a year since I graduated from University, time literally flew! In the spirit of my one year post grad anniversary, I wanted to share 5 things I learned this past year with y’all.
Also a huge thank you to Sheinfor collaborating with me on this blog post! You can shop this top, which is on sale ($15!! & comes in so many colors) down below!
1. The Things That Mattered to You a Year Later, Won’t Matter Anymore.
There are so many things I wish I could tell myself a year ago, like what I thought I wanted out of life a year ago is nowhere close to where I am and what I have now. The things you think matter so much to you in college literally mean nothing after. For example, when I was nearing the end of my senior year I thought living at home was the end of my life. I dreaded moving back home and told myself it would suck, and I wont lie it was a very hard adjustment to make after living alone for 4 years, but it was probably one of the best decisions I made. It was all okay in the end, in fact I prefer living around people and don’t think I would ever want to live alone again, even though I do need my space sometimes, being around fam is better than being alone for sure. Something like that is so small to me now, but a year ago it was like the end of the world, LOL.
2. Everything Falls Into Place
After I graduated I felt so alone since most of my friends lives in San Antonio, the ones in Houston were all in school and so busy, but I am so glad I met amazing girls and made amazing friendships through blogging. In this past year I met so many amazing people and even reconnected with old friends. I always felt so defeated too with the blogging game, I had just graduated and started taking consistency seriously, I had days where I would feel like quitting altogether. But in the past year I got accepted to rewardStyle, went to so many events and made so many connections, and the opportunities have been endless. I look back now and it all worked out. Everything fell into place. Of course I worked just as hard to make it happen, but the people who I met, where I am now with work, my blog, and my life I couldn’t be more content with. Alhmadullilah for that.
3. Business & Budgeting
One thing I am so grateful I learned how to do this past year was budget. If you know me you know I love shopping, so starting a job and going fully independent really helped me realize a lot about how to save and spend. The one thing I will say is don’t hold back on what you WANT. I do believe saving is important, but we’re all going to die one day. Money will always be earned back so never think you don’t deserve something if you can afford it. . However spending wisely is key. As I said in my previous post, spending $$ on designer goods doesn’t make you fashionable, being able to carry it does. Style is how you define yourself, not how others define you. Of course spend on whatever you want to spend on, you want that designer bag go get it. But don’t spend just to show off or for others, spend for yourself and spend because it makes you happy.
4. Loving Yourself & Gratitude
When I was graduating I had lost a lot of my self confidence and self love due to a series of events that happened, a breakup, moving away from a city I began to call home, a new job, a new life, would I be successful, could I handle the real world? I lost so much self love in that stressful time, I made it a point to pick myself back up. I started the 5 minute journal that was created by Mimi Ikonn and her husband Alex. I read The Secret a book about the law of attraction, I started indulging in self love and self appreciation and gratitude and I can’t even begin to tell you how it’s transformed my life. A year later, I am grateful for each day I live, for each person in my life, and for who I am today. I start each day with positivity and end each day with gratitude. It makes a world of a difference when you stay optimistic and positive versus in self doubt and stress, so this was probably the most valuable thing I learned this past year, how to love yourself and be grateful.
5. Be Unapologetically You
My whole life I had always been, you can say "bullied," about the way I am. I’m too fancy, I dress up too much, I like to live a certain lifestyle, I am always too proper, I am too this and too that. In this past year, I learned to love the way I am. I am who I am and I can’t change that. I live a certain way but that doesn’t mean I can’t compromise for others, if I dress a certain way that doesn’t mean you have to, if I am too fancy I’m not asking you to be how I am or do what I do. What I learned this year that I will carry for the rest of my life is to love yourself for who you are. Don’t change just to please others. The same people who used to make fun of me for dressing up when I was 15 come to me for outfit advice now. The same people who said I was too fancy or too classy are living the same way I am now. There is and never will be anything wrong with the way I am.
So I’ve learned this past year not to give a shit about what people say, I will live the way I am happy, and in no way will I impose my ways on you. I live how I want to but that doesn’t mean I don’t know life any other way, I have seen a lot of the world and met people who come from all different backgrounds and get along with everyone just fine, so find people who appreciate you. Value you. Find inspiration from the way you are just as I do from people who are nothing like me. Be UNAPOLOGETICALLY you. You are special and you will find someone who values everything about you, whether you’re too much or as simple as can be, love yourself for who you are. I started my blog because I was the way I was, and today all of you reading support and appreciate me, and that means everything to me.
A year later, I am beyond where I thought I’d be, and there is so much more left to do, the learning never stops.
This is only the beginning.